This is what happy looks like
If you ask people what their goal is, most of them have a clear picture. They want to be good at their work, climb a mountain or lose their fear of spiders. Although I once asked a friend while he tried to drink away the reality of his shitty job and he sobbed, ‘I just want to be happy!”. A sobering fact. Especially since the relation between happiness and success is more and more acknowledged in science. As a result, employee recognition and engagement are slowly getting the attention they deserve.
Reach your goals through happiness
In this blog post Robert Chen states that if you ask people what they want for their kids, it’s happiness. And of course, it’s great to be happy, personally, I can recommend it to everyone. ‘Ah, Melly, that’s easy talk for someone who not only isn’t real, but also has Happy in her name.’ Correct, but it’s almost as easy to become happy as to say you should be happy. Luckily, because not only is being happy a brilliant feeling, but also because it will probably help you to reach your other goals. As I told you before in this blog post: happy workers are the best workers.
The 5 pillars of happiness
Chen talks about the 5 pillars of happiness. The first is to feel positive emotions. Just try to smile and start looking at the bright side of things. It might take practice, especially for miss grumpy, but you’ll get hold of it. The second: engage yourself. Figure out what your strengths are and use these in your work. The third pillar is all about building great relations. Help people and don’t keep score. Try to listen so you can figure out what they really need. After that comes live with meaning. My goal is to make people happy, that’s why, even when I’m dog-tired, I still go on. The fifth is important as well. Achieve. Looking at myself; I need to be a great writer to reach my goal. So I keep on studying things like Creative Dialogue Tags. To become that awesome barista, Excel specialist, communicator or whatever. Try your best, practice and enjoy.
Get in control
In her blog post on Mashable, Nellie Akalp names a couple of Chen’s pillars as well, but she adds a couple of other important things. She suggests exercise to get that body in better shape. Another thing she thinks is important is to control your time. Often, people confuse urgent with important, but they really are quite different things. Set clear expectations, make decisions based on what you think is worth your time and don’t forget to say ‘no’ every now and then. Her final piece of advice: try to do projects outside your work. Something that really gets you going. The joy it will give you will not only leak into your everyday job, but heck, maybe it can be the start of a new career.
Last, but quite important, there’s this article on Huffington Post. The conclusion? Try altruism. People who help others are happier than those who don’t. It ‘operates as part of a healthy psychological reward system’. So even if you don’t do it for the other, do it for yourself.
Love and keep up the good work,